Some Sundays in Lent this
year have a clear unifying theme. This
is not one of them. I can imagine
worship services going all sorts of directions.
That makes it hard to identify one heart for the heart series. The best may be adding hearts to the
communion table as a way of celebrating God’s loving gifts (see below). If you can find heart shaped confetti (shop
before Valentine’s Day!), it could be spread on the floor around the Table or
sprinkled over children gathered on the steps as a reminder of all God’s
abundant gifts. If you build on the
repentance theme, finding a heart that makes sense to children is harder. Actually, using these texts to explore
repentance with children is hard. I’d
save repentance for other texts from the prophets or John the Baptist. If you create a repentance heart, do tell the
rest of us about it!
Both Isaiah and Paul insist
that God showers us with an abundance of gifts, all we need. If you will celebrate communion this week,
there are connections that suggest a little on-the-job worship education.
U The Great Prayer of Thanksgiving in the Communion liturgy is generally known as “that
long prayer before communion” by children.
They are quickly lost in all the images and big words. To help especially older children listen take time just before the
sacramental liturgy to walk through the prayer with them. Point out that the prayer names all the gifts
of love God gives us. Explain the
pattern that lies behind this list of gifts, i.e. God created the world and us,
then kept loving us when we messed up, and finally sent Jesus to love and
forgive us. Read version of the prayer
you will use today stopping for a child to place a red paper heart on the Table
for each gift named. Leave those hearts
in place during the sacrament. Encourage
the children to listen to the prayer today and to listen every time it is
prayed for the gifts God gives us. Choose
or create a Great Prayer of Thanksgiving today using as child-friendly language
as possible. Below is my stab at
it. (I separated the lines to show the
points at which a heart is added to the Table.)
If you write one, share it with the rest of us.
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A Great Prayer of Thanksgiving
We
praise you God because you created the whole universe from the tiniest bugs to
the largest stars.
You
created people. Unlike all the other living
things you created, you created us in your image. You gave us the power to choose and decide.
When
we made selfish choices, decided to hurt others and chose to be unfair, you did
not give up on us. Instead you sent
prophets to point out what we were doing wrong and call us to do better.
When
we did not listen to the prophets you came among us as Jesus.
For
all these gifts we join all your creatures everywhere singing... SANCTUS
Jesus
taught us about all your loving gifts to us.
Jesus
showed us your love by healing people who were sick.
Jesus
told us stories about how to love.
Jesus
showed us how to love each other when he made friends with people no one liked.
When
people got angry with him, deserted him, and finally killed him on cross, Jesus
did not get even with them. He forgave
them all.
RESPONSE
So
on this day we share this bread and cup…..
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U Or,
focus on the phrase “the gifts of God for the people of God.” Have the communion loaf baked in a heart
shape. (Go to Fig Jam and Lime Cordial for step by step illustrated directions for shaping a heart loaf.) Show it to the children (or all
worshipers). List all the gifts God
gives us culminating with the gift of Jesus’ love and forgiveness. Note that we remember all of these gifts,
most especially the gift of Jesus every time we eat bread and drink from the
cup together. Then, practice the phrase
and invite worshipers to repeat it with you.
U When I first connected phrases of the Lord’s Prayer to the texts of each Sunday of Lent this year, I suggested, “thy kingdom come, thy will be done…” for today. After digging more deeply into the texts, “give us this day our daily bread” seems a better choice. Start by listing all the things we need to survive. If children are helping with this list, avoid getting into a discussion of the difference in what we want and what we need. Allow a few “wants” to be listed, but redirect the list to things like air, water, various kinds of food, etc. Then note that when we pray “give us this day our daily bread,” we are praying for more than just bread, we are praying for everything on the list.
U For
fuller emphasis on this, create a responsive prayer in which
the leader names some of the items from the list with all worshipers
responding, “give us this day our daily bread.”
One: We do need bread, God. We need sandwich bread and muffins and pizza
crust and pitas and bread sticks.
All:
Give us this day our daily bread
One: But bread is not all we need. We need air to breathe.
All:
Give us this day our daily bread
One: We need water to drink and to wash ourselves
with and to use cleaning our clothes and homes.
All:
Give us this day our daily bread
And so forth…..
U Or,
point to the “we” in the phrase insisting that this is not a selfish
prayer. We pray not just that we have
daily bread, but that everyone in the world has daily bread. Connect this with one of the congregation’s
efforts to make this prayer come true in a food collection or some other
current sharing project.
The Texts
for Today
Isaiah 55:1-9
U The UMC worship website Lectionary Planning Helps for Sunday includes this
call to worship based on Isaiah. Make it
even more visual for children by having Reader 1 pour water into the font or
scoop out water for all to see and hear and having Reader 2 lift the loaf and
chalice. It already suggests that Reader
3 lift the Bible.
Reader 1 (standing
at the font):
Ho, everyone who thirsts,
come to the waters;
and you that have no money,
come, buy and eat!
Ho, everyone who thirsts,
come to the waters;
and you that have no money,
come, buy and eat!
Reader 2 (standing
at the table):
Come, buy wine and milk
without money and without price.
Why do you spend your money for that which is not bread,
and your labor for that which does not satisfy?
Come, buy wine and milk
without money and without price.
Why do you spend your money for that which is not bread,
and your labor for that which does not satisfy?
Reader 3 (standing
at the lectern holding up the lectern Bible or lectionary book):
Listen carefully to me, and eat what is good,
and delight yourselves in rich food.
Incline your ear, and come to me;
listen, so that you may live.
Listen carefully to me, and eat what is good,
and delight yourselves in rich food.
Incline your ear, and come to me;
listen, so that you may live.
The assembly:
Lord we seek you; we return to you.
Have mercy upon us.
May your word bear fruit in us
and our spirits and bodies be refreshed in your nearness.
Lord we seek you; we return to you.
Have mercy upon us.
May your word bear fruit in us
and our spirits and bodies be refreshed in your nearness.
U Both
Isaiah and Paul warn against our human tendency to wish for things we do not
have or cannot do. Children often
express this in phrases that begin “If only…” such as “if only I had a
bicycle or the latest electronic game” or “if only I could go to camp or make
the travel team…” The unstated ending of
these sentences “I’d be happy.” After
identifying a few “if onlys,” read “Why do you spend your money for that
which is not bread, and your labor for that which does not satisfy?” (Isaiah
55:2a). Discuss our disappointment when
we get some of the things we want and they do not make us happy. Point out
the difficulty of figuring out what we really need and what we just want. A bike can get you around the neighborhood
more quickly. But, do we have to have
the latest game when we already have a bunch of them to play? Children need to know that figuring out which
of our “If onlys” are real needs will continue to be a challenge throughout
life.
U Ariel in The Little Mermaid
collects stuff from the land. She loves this stuff and is obsessed by life on
the land even though she is a sea dweller.
Eventually she makes the classic Faust deal selling her best gift to get
what she wants. For today focus just on
the song at the beginning of the film.
I’ll post a link to the whole song and the words to the section to use
in worship today.
Look at this stuff
Isn't it neat?
Wouldn't you think my collection's complete?
Wouldn't you think I'm the girl
The girl who has everything?...
Isn't it neat?
Wouldn't you think my collection's complete?
Wouldn't you think I'm the girl
The girl who has everything?...
But who cares?
No big deal
I want more
No big deal
I want more
Psalm 63:1-8
This psalm praises God using
images that do make sense to most children.
Read it for the adults.
To follow Paul’s logic here
the reader needs to know many details of the Exodus story. Since most children do not, they cannot
follow the text as it is read. And, that
may be just fine because if they did follow it they would likely jump to some
unfortunate conclusions about what Paul was saying. So, it is better for worship leaders to share
in more child-friendly ways Paul’s message that God gives us many wonderful
gifts and that it is our job to recognize, use, and enjoy them as the gifts they are. A discussion about “if onlys” or hearing Ariel’s
song (see the Isaiah section) are better entry points.
Luke 13:1-9
U If you explore the question
posed to Jesus about why bad things happen to good people, be aware that
children generally do not ask the question in the same way adults do. When horrible things happen to people around
them, children ask not whether those people did something bad that resulted in
this punishment, but whether they did something bad that made God punish a
person near them. Though they have
trouble putting it into words they often feel something like, “Grandpa
died because I did not want to skip my game last Saturday to go see him. All this grief and pain is my fault.” Children can hardly explore this before they
feel it, so it is more helpful to prepare adults to be aware of the possibility
and ready to take the question up should it arise.
U Parables are hard for children to understand. Even middle schoolers have trouble sorting out which stories they associate with Jesus really happened and which were stories he told. Once they do recognize a story as a parable, they have trouble figuring out what Jesus was trying to teach us. Since the fig tree parable is hard for adults to figure out, expect it to be harder for children. One of the simplest ways to introduce it is to compare the fruit of a fig tree and things people do. Start with a picture of a fig tree. Give children or all worshipers a fig newton to eat to make it more real. Make a point that fig trees produce fruit that people (or at least some people) like to eat. That is their job. People take care of people and things around us. That is our job. List ways people do that – making dinner for the family, taking care of a younger sibling so parent can work, taking care of someone who is sick, etc. Settling for just this entry to the story is about all we can give the children for now.
What about using the red hearts to stick on a skeleton 'fig' tree which finally, after lots of loving care, at long last produces fruit?
ReplyDeleteBridget
This is a hard one. For the adults, we have taken the approach toward "pruning" - and how proper pruning/cutting away can actually make a plant more fruitful. Especially during Lent, we are encouraging folks to think about what can be "pruned" from their life. At our weekly Lent sensory station, we have branches for each person to take when they decide what they might prune from their life. NOt sure if there is a way to link this to kids easily...
ReplyDeleteFor some reason as I read your comment, I heard my mother demanding from another room, "Cut it out!" when my siblings and I were doing something we should not have been. I doubt children would get the connection between pruning and that admonition. But, I wonder if you could start there and urge the children to identify some of the things God might want them to cut out of their lives - name calling, jealousy, etc. They could write them on jagged scraps of paper to wad up and drop into a garbage can.
DeleteCarolyn, thank you again for your brilliant blog. How about... a loving heart bears fruit... a loving heart shows its love. That leading to a discussion of 'good fruit' (with a mention of rotten fruit, too) as you mention above. So a heart for this week could have a fruit picture on it. Angela
ReplyDeleteI did go with repentence/forgiveness this week! I have a backpack, and I filled it with cement bricks; each brick is covered with paper and I wrote something I feel bad about (or that kids might do that are "naughty"). I am going to let the kids try on the backpack to see how it feels when you carry all that burdening weight around with you; then, as we take out the bricks, one by one, and "give them to God," by asking for forgiveness, I am sticking a large red heart sticker onto each one, over the written item. Then, I want the kids to put the backpack on again, and see how light it is, and remind them that when we are forgiven, all that weight is released. I'm looking forward to it; the kids always enjoy an interactive "object lesson!"
ReplyDeleteCS, I bet they will enjoy it. And, I'm guessing that they may "get it." The true test would be to ask a couple of them mid-week, "what did we do with a backpack in church on Sunday?" then "Why did we do that in church? or "What do you think we were to learn when we did that?" If do the test, I'd love to hear the results. In the meantime, thank you for sharing.
DeleteThanks Carolyn...I am beginning in a new pastorate tomorrow. The Luke 13 reflection got me thinking...beyond what kids could offer and do and what we do, what can I do for them, to care for them as their new minister.
ReplyDeleteExcellent help, I was stumped on this one. Appreciate your insights. I'm bringing fig newtons!
ReplyDeleteBrian Stoffregen comments that the fig tree's "sin" is languishing - doing nothing, NOT bearing fruit, not 'doing it's job,' as you say. Following on that & Sue & Angela's comments, I've cut hearts that have "stems" on them, & will talk about the fig tree parable & how we can 'do our job' in Jesus' name, & the good fruits we can bear. -Kris
ReplyDeleteKris, your idea led me to check out the shape of fig leaves. It would be cool for our purposes if they were heart shaped, but they are not even close. Oh well.
DeleteMy one concern with talking about hearts and fruits is that we are using not one but two symbols. That could be really hard for kid brains to process. The test would be to ask a listener midweek what you did and then why you did it? If you try it, let the rest of us know the results.