Many of these texts read
together could be a good antidote for the fall season’s over
dedication to being the best, the greatest, number 1. Proverbs describes an impossibly perfect
woman who fewer and fewer women take seriously.
Jesus in Mark insists that it is not about being the greatest. James warns that a lot of our problems rise
in our ambitions and strivings. Together
they take us back to grace. It’s not
wrong to do our best, but we mess up when we obsess about it.
The Texts
Proverbs 31:10-31
> When this description of the good woman is read by a woman children can hear it as a
description of one model woman. It also
avoids the bad history in which this description was used by men to keep women “in
their place.”
> To help children understand how many women feel about
this alphabet poem about “the good woman” read them the beginning of a similar
poem about “the good kid.” The children might call out each letter of
the alphabet with the leader responding with the verse based on that letter
with emphasis on the key word or phrase.
Talk about how this poem makes them feel. Laughing, suggest other poems like “A Good
Dad” or “A Good Teacher” or “A Good Friend.”
The point of all this is that none of us are that good and that is OK.
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
The Good Kid
A A good
kid is able to do whatever is asked.
B “Be thoughtful and kind to every person
all the time”
is the motto which a good kid follows every day.
C Clean rooms, clean clothes, clean
papers,
and clean desks show the presence of a good kid.
D Doing what is right all the time is
what a good kid
always does.
E Everyone thinks a good kid is wonderful
and praise comes to the good kid every single day.
F Football, basketball, baseball, soccer
and all other sports come easily to the good kid.
Good kids are sports stars.
G Good grades cover the reports of good
kids.
They are excellent students.
H Happy is the word
that describes a good kid
all the time.
Had enough?
This
is my stab at it. Feel free to use it as
is or to edit freely. Have fun.
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
> Back in 2012 other members of my lectionary study
group were all about reclaiming this text for women. They were going to lift up the exceptional
way she did her work and challenge us to use her as a
model. I tried to think of ways to present it to
children in that light, but can’t get there.
I’d love to hear how others can.
Psalm 1
> Today this is presented to go with the Proverbs
reading. You might make a case that it
is a psalm the woman described in Proverbs
would have known and liked.
> Scornful, scoffers, and chaff are unfamiliar words to most children, so choose your
translation carefully and point out strange words before reading if
needed. (There is no translation that
includes none of these words. So, choose
the one that fits you congregation and introduce its “hard words.”)
> Psalm
1 is an almost over-simplistic comparison of “the good” and “the wicked.” To make the comparison visual, have it read by two readers
(perhaps one wearing a dark shirt and pants/skirt and the other wearing a white
or light colored shirt and pants/skirts).
One reads the verses about the wicked.
The other reads the verses about the good. They begin standing back to back in the
center of the sanctuary. Each one turns
to recite his or her verses facing the congregation then returns to the
starting position. This is most
effective if the readers actually recite their verses from memory.
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Psalm 1
Reader
1: Happy are those
who do not follow the advice of the
wicked,
or take the path that sinners tread,
or sit in the seat of scoffers;
but their delight is in the law of the
Lord,
and on his law they meditate day and
night.
They are like trees planted by streams
of water,
which yield their fruit in its season,
and their leaves do not wither.
In all that they do, they prosper.
Reader
2: The wicked are not so,
but are like chaff that the wind
drives away.
Therefore the wicked will not stand
in
the judgment,
nor sinners in the congregation
of the
righteous;
Reader
1: For the Lord
watches over the way
of the righteous,
Reader
2: but the way of the wicked will perish.
NRSV
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NOTE: I used the NRSV in the script because
this psalm is well known in this version.
For a translation with an easier vocabulary for children look at Today’s
English Version.
> Visualize the major images in the psalm with a display
that juxtaposes a lush leafy plant and a vase of dry
brittle weeds/straw.
(BTW, talk in advance with the flower arranger so the weeds aren’t an
elegant display!) Point to the displays
before reading the psalm or talk about them during the sermon to explore the
psalmist’s message.
Wisdom of Solomon 1:16 – 2:1, 12-22
Jeremiah 11:18-20
Psalm 54
All three of these are very adult texts that relate in
sophisticated ways to the gospel prediction of the crucifixion. They would be rather hard to explain to
children and if you did explain them would not mean that much to the children. So, I would stick with simply retelling the
passion story in Mark. See suggestions
below.
> If you read any of these texts, consider the Roman
Catholic lectionary suggestion that we read only
Wisdom of Solomon 2:17-20. Those
verses focus the message considerably.
James 3:13 – 4:3, 7-8a
> The Roman Catholic lectionary again streamlines this
rather long repetitive text to James 3:16-4:3. It is easier for children to stick with the
shorter reading.
ENVY SELFISH AMBITION
> Before reading the text present on 2 posters “envy” and “selfish ambition”
(or whatever words your translation uses).
Briefly describe the wanting in each one and encourage worshipers to
listen for the words and the problems they cause according to James.
> Invite worshipers to pray a prayer
of confession with their eyes open doing with their hands what you do with
yours as you pray together.
Begin with hands grasping and holding.
When you get to ”open our hands,” open your hands with palms out and
up. After promising forgiveness not only
for hands but also for hearts, use your hands for the passing of the peace.
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God,
We want to look amazing.
We want great clothes, cool shoes, a great haircut.
We want our rooms in our homes filled with our stuff.
We want all the best people to be our friends.
We want to be the first, the best, the most, the greatest.
So we grab and hold and demand.
We even kick and punch to get what we want.
Forgive us.
Teach us to let go, to open our hands
and hearts to others.
Teach us to be content with what we have
and to share it.
Teach us to think as much about what THEY want
as what WE want.
Teach us to be as loving as Jesus.
Amen.
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> Before singing Be Thou My
Vision point out the verse that begins “riches I heed not.” Spin out a short list of riches like clothes,
houses, cars, video games… Then read the
next phrase “vain empty praise” and spin out a list of being the greatest
athlete, the smartest student, the best ……
Roll your eyes. Then read through
the rest of the verse ending with emphasis on “Great God of heaven my treasure
Thou art.” Finally invite worshipers to
sing that verse – and the others – as if they really mean it. (Warning: Hymnals use a variety of words for this
verse. Be sure to use the one in your book.)
> Judy Blume’s picture book, The
Pain and The Great One goes both with James’ teachings about not
getting so tied up in ourselves and what we want and with the argument about
greatness in Mark. An eight year old big
sister, the Great One,” and her six year old brother, “the Pain,” each rant
about the unfair advantages the other has.
It’s a conversation most families will recognize. It takes 7-8 minutes to read the entire book
with the drama it demands. If needed,
the book could be shortened considerably by editing out parallel parts of each
child’s rant, e.g. leave out the part about the blocks and the parts about
staying up late or having the blocks to himself. Or, you could select a few key phrases to say
with great drama knowing that children and parents can fill in with all the
others. If you use this book in
exploring James’ insistence that many of our problems spring from our
jealousies of others and our greedy wants, offer a few similar rants often
heard from teenagers and adults – maybe from others at the office, etc.
Mark 9:30-37
> This reading falls into 2 parts: the prediction of
Jesus’ death and resurrection and Jesus’ discussion with his disciples about
what constitutes greatness. For children
they are rather separate conversations.
Verses 30-32, the prediction of
the crucifixion and resurrection, are an opportunity to retell
the Holy Week story in September – without the distractions of Easter bunnies
and chocolate eggs. Three ways to tell
the story:
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JESUS MAFA. The Crucifixion; Jesus dies on the cross, from Art in the Christian Tradition, a project of the Vanderbilt Divinity Library, Nashville, TN. http://diglib.library.vanderbilt.edu/act-imagelink.pl?RC=48390 [retrieved August 21, 2015]. |
>
Gather a set
of pictures tracing the events of Holy Week . Display them in order recalling the events in
them as you go. One good source is the
African paintings at Vanderbilt's Art in the Christian Tradition Collection. Go to http://diglib.library.vanderbilt.edu/act-processquery.pl and type MAFA in the search line to find this series of
paintings.
>
“Read” a simple story book
about Holy Week events. Books for young
preschoolers with simple pictures sand few words are the best. The Easter Story
by Patricia A. Pingry is a good choice, but you may have another one among the
children’s books for children. Whatever
book you choose avoid reading the printed words in favor of telling the story
in your own words. You can skip over
some pages in order to spend more time on others.
>
Tell the story by singing Lord of the Dance or O
Sing A Song of Bethlehem to trace all of Jesus’ life including
his death on the cross. Before singing
the song, briefly walk through the stories told in each verse. Such songs help children string together the
stories about Jesus they generally hear one at a time.
> Verses 33 – 37 speak to children of something that is
very real to them. They have had the “who is the greatest” conversation with
their friends repeatedly. They have
argued about who is the greatest ball player in the world, who is the best
speller in their class, who among those present is the greatest at … whatever
they are doing at the moment. They are
encouraged to be the best, the champion, the greatest. From an early age we ply children with
trophies, ribbons, titles, and more that mark their greatness at all sorts of
things. Jesus’ message flies in the face
of all of this. Jesus says God is not
interested in who is greatest at anything.
God is interested in who pays attention to the least of the people.
> Since children are interested in other children, they
will listen to information about how children were regarded in Jesus’ day. They were totally powerless and
un-important. One source says they were
referred to as it rather than he or she.
What they thought or wanted mattered to no one. Use this information to make Jesus’ point
that the greatest person is not the one who wins all the prizes and is extra
specially talented, but the one who pays attention to and takes care of the
people who need love and care most – in Jesus’ day the one who paid attention to children. Then brainstorm a
list of the most unimportant “it” people today – maybe younger kids or not very
bright kids or kids who wear dorky clothes or….. Insist that the greatest person according to
Jesus is the person who pays attention to the “it kids.”
Yes, again! |
> Judy Blume’s The Pain and the
Great One which was
used to explore the James text above can also be seen as a child’s version of
the disciples’ discussion about who is the greatest. The trick is to recognize in the children’s
rants feelings we all (and the disciples) have at all ages. We want to be special, the great one, and
most loved. Jesus is telling us that
those feelings are dead ends. We need to
stop worrying about ourselves and start paying attention to people around us. The surprising thing is that when we do that
we are happier.
> Yertle the Turtle, by Dr. Seuss, tells of Yertle the turtle king who tries
to prove his greatness with ever higher thrones. He makes those high thrones by piling more
and more turtles on top of each other.
Max at the bottom of the tower cries for relief and is ignored until
Yertle seeing the moon rise above him is outraged that anything is higher than
he is. Max guessing what Yertle will
want next, lets out a big burp causing the whole tower to fall and pitching
Yertle into the mud. It is a parable
about the foolishness of trying to be “the greatest.”
There are several versions of the first and last verses. Be sure you print the one in your hymn book. |
> To turn The Servant
Song into an affirmation of faith, give children or all
worshipers word sheets with large margins early in the service. Read the first verse. Point out all the yous in it and insist that
the song only becomes real when we replace the yous with specific people or
groups of people we want to serve as Jesus instructed. Invite worshipers to draw or write the names
of people for whom they want to sing this song.
Encourage them to include people in their own families, friends they
like, even people they don’t like but whom they know need their loving
care. Suggest that they listen for ideas
as you worship together. Then sing the
song using the song sheets near the conclusion of the service.
> Other child friendly songs that call us to respond to
Jesus call to discipleship include
Jesu, Jesu, Fill Us with Your
Love
Love
Be Thou My Vision
Take My Life and
Let It Be Consecrated
Let It Be Consecrated
Mark in Australia sent this email and gave permission for me to share it:
ReplyDeleteI had some fun with the alphabet describing children and attached a copy for you to see, if you are interested.
I changed the title to The Ideal Child to reflect the teaching of Proverbs 31. I like talking of ideals with the congregation, an ideal is something to strive towards even though we may never reach it. I also wrote this bearing in mind that many of the young people I work with are special needs. We have a number of children living with autism, for example. They do not play sport and have some difficulties fitting in, so this is an attempt to find a model that speaks to them.
I had fun with the X. In the end a Mormon friend of mine came up with the word, a wonderful etymology behind the word describes a house set up to care for the sick, pilgrims and strangers. It will give us a talking point on Sunday.
I also personalised each list. I replaced The ideal child is: with Name is: and am getting copies laminated so they can take them home. Doing it this way, I hope to reinforce the good character and encourage striving to be even more of that. Where I know the child's favourite colour, I did the font of the text in that colour.
Of course, the anger is those unexpected visitors, so I will have a couple of blanks left over that can be handed out to guests or visitors.
The Ideal Child
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
The ideal child is:
A Appreciative of family and friends
B Blessed by God
C Created in God’s image
D Diligent in doing what needs to be done
E Excited to do God’s will
F Fun filled
G Gentle and nurturing
H Hungry to learn
I Inquisitive
J Joyful before God
K Kind to the creatures of this world
L Loyal to God and loved ones
M Mindful of others
N Naturally themselves
O Obedient to their parents
P Persistent when things get difficult
Q Quick to forgive
R Right with God
S Steadfast in their faith
T Thoughtful of the needs of others
U Unpredictable
V Vital for a lively Church
W Wanting to Worship God
X Xenodochial
Y Young at heart
Z Zealous for that which is good and right
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
Actually, I live in Canada.
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