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Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Year A - Seventh Sunday after Epiphany, Seventh Sunday in Ordinary Time (February 23, 2014)

Leviticus 19:1-2, 9-18

* At the beginning of the service, identify HOLY as the word of the day and challenge children to count the number of times it is used in worship.  Hear their counts as they leave the sanctuary and congratulate them on their effort.

* Unlike the NRSV, Today’s English Version (The Good News Bible) does not assume that the reader knows about gleaning and other old practices.  That makes it easier for children to follow.

* Invite the congregation to join in reading the scripture by saying the “I am the Lord” phrase each time it appears.  Print the text in the bulletin and explain the meaning of the phrase in this context before reading together. 

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Leviticus 19:1-2, 9-18

Leader:         The Lord told Moses to say to the community
                            of Israel,
Be holy, because I, the Lord your God, am holy. 
When you harvest your fields,
     do not cut the corn at the edges of the fields,
     and do not go back to cut the ears of corn
          that were left. 
Do not go back through your vineyard
     to gather the grapes that were missed
     or to pick up the grapes that have fallen;
     leave them for poor people and foreigners.

All:                 I am the Lord your God.

Leader:         Do not steal or cheat or lie.
Do not make a promise in my name if you do not
           intend to keep it;
that brings disgrace on my name.

All:                 I am the Lord your God.

Leader:         Do not take advantage of anyone or rob him.
Do not hold back the wages of someone you have
      hired, not even for one night. 
Do not curse a deaf man or
      put something in front of a blind man so as
to make him stumble over it.
Obey me;

All:                 I am the Lord your God.

Leader:         Be honest and just when you make decisions
                              in legal cases;
       do not show favouritism to the poor
             or fear the rich. 
Do not spread lies about anyone, and
when someone is on trial for his life,
       speak out if your testimony can help him.

All:                 I am the Lord.

Leader:         Do not bear a grudge against anyone,
       but settle your differences with him,
so that you will not commit a sin because of him.
Do not take revenge on anyone or continue
           to hate him,
but love your neighbour as you love yourself.

All:                 I am the Lord.

                                                                              Today’s English Version

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BE HOLY

* Most children are told (and want) to be cool, smart, happy, good…   But Moses is calling them to be “holy.”   Most of them have no real idea of what that means.  Some may connect “holy” with extra good, maybe even overly good people and therefore do not want to make it a goal for themselves.  They will need help defining the word.

One starting point is the way the word is used to describe God.  If the word appears anywhere in the sanctuary, point it out.  Look at the Holy of Holy Bible.  Consider starting worship by singing “Holy, Holy, Holy” and then talking about what we sang about God. 

Next work with the fact that we are made in God’s image and are meant to be as like God as we can be.  That means we are supposed to be holy.  The specific commands in the text provide examples of what God does and calls us to do.

Or, point out that holy means set aside for God.  Just as the Bible, the communion table, etc are set aside for the service of God, we are also set aside to be God’s people.  That means we are holy.  At our baptism we are set aside for God. 

* To explore how we are set aside for God at our baptism and thus holy, select a few key phrases from your congregation’s ritual.  For me, it would be “you are Christ’s forever” and maybe “do you renounce evil.”  Talk briefly about what each phrase says about how we live every day at school and how we treat other people. 

* Side bar:  Many children hear the word holy most often in expletives -  holy smoke, holy mackerel, holy cow, and probably a number of phrases you’d rather not utter in the sanctuary, but which one of the children will say if given a chance.  It is possible to note these phrases illustrating with a few of your choice, then point out that they make no sense at all.  They are simply things we say when we are so frustrated or angry that we have to say something flashy.  Rather than use holy which refers to God to do this, we can use other words.  Some children make up long twisted words or phrases like “horseradish pickles.”  A case can be made that using holy in this way is misusing God’s name.  This is definitely a side bar and not the heart of today’s worship themes.

 
Psalm 119:33-40

* This is the second of the Psalm 119 readings.  It continues the alphabet poem with today’s verses starting with the Hebrew letter “he.”  If you did not introduce all the synonyms for Law in Psalm 119 last week, go to Epiphany 6 (Yr A) 6 for an idea about doing so this week.

* All the lines of this section start with a verb asking God’s help in living by the Law, or for today’s purposes asking for help in being holy.  After reading the lines the poet offers, make up some of your own and challenge worshipers to create lines of their own, e.g.
Teach me how to tell the truth – all the time
Show me how to be a good big brother
Remind me to be kind even to people who are not kind to me


1 Corinthians 3:10-11, 16-23

* The “you” in this passage is the church not any individual.  The church is God’s temple, where God is present and known.  The writer is exploring the value of the church and the responsibility of leaders and members to care for it, protect it, even keep it “holy” (tying into the Leviticus reading).  Children are ready to hear this message, but will not be able to find it from the text as it is read.  Instead, they will depend on worship leaders to identify and explore the theme.

* As background for the text, identify leaders in your congregation. 

Identify the elected leaders and give a brief child-friendly description of their responsibilities.  Ask those who fill those offices to stand so the children and others can see them. 

In addition, identify some of the unelected leaders.  Name some people who take care of the church by quietly doing specific jobs, e.g. people who set up the sanctuary for worship, people who take a turn in the church nursery, people who maintain the church’s library or kitchen, or anyone else who does work that cares for the church. 

* If you pray for the leaders of your congregation, be as specific as possible.  Name the offices and pray about the work of those in that office.  Though you may not want to name names of unelected leaders you can pray for those who do very specific tasks.

Thank you God for the people who work so hard on the worship planning team to provide prayers and songs and readings that guide all of us every day. 

God, be with the deacons as they visit people who are sick and sad and lonely.  Help them find the words to say that will remind people how much you love them and how much we love them.  Keep them safe as they deliver food and run errands for people.

* Use the finger-play “Here is the church, Here is the steeple, Open the doors to see all the people.”  The second verse (with fingers on the outside instead of inside) is “You can have a church, and not have a steeple, But you can’t have a church without any people.”  After demonstrating the finger play and inviting everyone to go through it with you, keep your fingers up and wiggling.  Announce that today we are thinking about the fingers, the people of the church, that is us.  Point out that every one of us is responsible for the care and protection of the church. 

* Sing about the church

Ask a children’s choir or class to sing “We Are the Church” by Avery and Marsh.
Scroll down on this page to We Are the Church to see the words and tune from the Methodist Hymnal.
 
 Sing “God of Grace and God of Glory” as a prayer for the church.  To challenge children to sing every “grant us wisdom, grant us courage” in the refrains, even if they can’t keep up with all the verses because we the church really do need wisdom and courage to be the church everyday. 


Matthew 5:38-48


* Today’s “Jesus said” poster is obvious.  “Love your enemies.”  As you add it to the other posters or put it on display admit that it may be the hardest thing Jesus ever said.
 

* “Love you enemies.”  Love here is a verb that means treat with respect.  To most children love is a feeling or the way you act when you feel good about someone.  Jesus’ teaching is that we should treat everyone, even people who are not nice to us, with respect.  We must remember that no matter how they are treating us, they are God’s children and we need to treat them with respect.  This takes some explaining!

* Several stories in which children refuse to participate in revenge are worthy sermon illustrations.


The Story of Ruby Bridges, by Robert Coles, tells the true story of a seven year old African American girl who was escorted to school every day for months by federal marshals through angry yelling white crowds as schools were desegregated in the American south.  Each day she prayed asking God to forgive the people who were yelling at her.  Children may have heard this story during Black History month at school as an example of how hard it was to end segregation.  Revisit the story in worship as an example of a girl who chose to forgive rather than retaliate.  Check this out from the public library if it available – it is Black History month.

The Christmas Menorahs: How A Town Fought Hate, by Janice Cohn, is too long to read in worship (40 pages).  Read it in advance and tell the story in your own words during the sermon.  A hate group threw a rock through the bedroom window of a Jewish boy in Billings, Montana.  There was a menorah lit in the window.  In response the children of the town drew menorahs to put in their own windows.  The local newspaper printed a full page menorah for other families to color in.  It was the community’s way of standing up to a bunch of bullies.  The book includes the legend about the King of Denmark wearing a yellow star when the occupying Nazis decreed that all Jews must wear a yellow star.  Available in many public libraries.

Enemy Pie, by Derek Munson, is a picture book describing how Dad helped his son get rid of a neighborhood enemy by baking an enemy pie.  The secret ingredient in the pie was that the son had to spend the entire afternoon with his enemy being nice to him.  Of course the enemy was dispatched by becoming a friend.  The story could be told briefly in your own words during the sermon or could be read in its entirety in 10 minutes.  While it is a bit simplistic, the story teaches a clear message and is enjoyed by listeners of all ages.  Though the story is not widely familiar, I found several copies in the local public library.

* If the children are sitting near you, hold out your hand and ask the child to slap your hand.  After the slap act surprised and say, “You slapped me!  I owe you one.”   Then insist that the child hold out his or her hand.  Gently slap it.  Then say, “Oh no!  Now you owe me a slap.” and offer your hand.  Continue for several rounds.  Then, stop yourself before you slap the child’s hand.  “This could go on forever.”  Announce that you are owed a chance to slap, but you are not going to take it.  It is the only way you can stop the slapping.  Thank the child who slapped with you.  Then, note to everyone that this was a rather silly demonstration of something serious we face all the time.  If someone hurts us, we want to hurt them back.  If they call us a name, we call them one back.  If someone breaks something of ours, we want to break something of theirs.  If someone slaps or hits or kicks, we want to slap or hit or kick back.  The problem with that is that everyone forgets who started it and keeps on hurting each other.  Jesus tells us we have the power to stop all the hurting.  Even if we deserve a chance to hit or kick or call names back when someone hurts us, we can refuse.  It is one of the hardest things Jesus asks us to do.  Note briefly that this doesn’t mean we should let anyone who wants to hurt us do so any way they can at any time they want.  What Jesus says is that we should find another way to get things straightened out.  Lots of time we need help to figure out that way.  Jesus knows that and urges us to get all the help we can, but not to hit, slap, kick, hurt back. 

* Sing about loving enemies

Before singing the The Servant Song (“Brother, sister, let me serve you…”), give worshipers a moment to make a silent list of the people it is really hard to get along with.  Then challenge them to sing the song for those people.  Even read the first verse and point out that it is also the last verse – and not easy to sing/pray for the people on our lists.

There are two verses in Carolyn Winfrey Gillette’s hymn “Up On a Mountaintop”  (words at Up On a Mountaintop) that fit these verses especially well.  Take time to read them and illustrate them with everyday child or household situations before inviting worshipers to sing the whole song.

If any hurt you, then you may resist,
But not with hatred or weapon or fist.
God's way is stronger than any you face;
Stand up and love them! And give them God's grace.
Love those who hate you and pray for them, too.
God's mercy reaches out far beyond you.
Seek, as God's people, God's wholeness each day
So you can witness to God's perfect way.

Thursday, October 3, 2013

Year C - All Saints Day (November 1 or 3, 2013)


All Saints Day falls on Friday this year.  That makes it tempting to create an all church festival supper with costumes and activities for all ages UNLESS community Halloween celebrations will have moved from Thursday to Friday night.  Still, most congregations who celebrate All Saints Day will do so on Sunday morning.  Whenever you celebrate, you will find lots of ideas below.  Rather than sending you to links to other years, I have brought all I have from them and added some fresh ideas to this post.


U  If you do this on Sunday morning in the USA, remember to set your clocks back to enjoy that wonderful extra hour of sleep!

 
 
 
 
 
 
All Saints Day

U  With children we tend to turn All Saints Day into a celebration of Christian heroes and heroines.  There is value in doing that.  Children need role models and it is wise to offer them some specifically Christian ones. 

To do this (and take up on the Halloween costume interest) invite children (or worshipers of all ages) to wear costumes or carry a prop related to one of their Christian hero/ines.  Stage a processional in which worshipers stop at a microphone to tell in one sentence the name of their hero/ine and why that person is important to them.  Help parents get their children into this with advanced publicity that defines saint as a person who shows us about God, lists several well - known saints, e.g. St. Patrick, St. Paul, Martin Luther King, Mother Teresa, at least one local saint and notes that saints may be living or may have already died.  In an oral announcement, identify one of your saints and tell what you would wear or carry to represent that person.  If there are churches named after saints in your community, encourage people to learn about one of those saints.  A light touch throughout will make this a fun and celebratory worship event for everyone.

Instead of wearing costumes, challenge church school classes and households to make a paper banner or poster about one of their saints.  Stage a processional of these art works and display them during worship.

U  The downside of celebrating saintly hero/ines is that it leaves most of us feeling less than saintly.  To avoid this, emphasize that all God’s people are saints.  Saints are people through whom God shines.  Each saint shows us a different part of God.  Illustrate this by naming what of God you see in some of the saints in your congregation – maybe the music minister or the guy who heads up the CROP Walk every year.  Challenge worshipers to identify what they see of God in people around them.  Remind them that the more people we know and pay attention to, the more we know the grace of God through those people.

U  If you regularly recite the Apostles’ Creed in worship, point to the phrase “(I believe in) the communion of saints.”  Direct worshipers to find it wherever you have it printed.  Note that it is a reminder that we are connected to all the people who have loved God and followed Jesus in all times and all places.  We are a community, a family.  Name some of the saints you will be thinking of today when you say this and invite others to think about the saints they will remember.  Then, recite/read the creed together.

U  To celebrate some of these saints (both living and dead) who are dear to members of the congregation create posters, banners, or table cloths decorated with their names.

Prepare several blank banners (possibly cloud shaped to refer to the great cloud of witnesses in Hebrews 12).  Invite worshipers to arrive early enough to add names of their saints in fabric marking pens to one of the banners.  Just before worship slide the banners on to poles, process in with them, and display them prominently during worship.

Instead of creating banners create a table cloth for the central worship table.   Worshipers can write the names of their saints on a white sheet which is then draped over the worship table at the beginning of worship.  Candles, crosses, even communion elements can be added during a Call to Worship which summons all the saints, both the living and the dead. 

U  Two children’s picture books about quilts provide good back stories for these creations. 
 
In The Keeping Quilt, by Patricia Polacco, a woman immigrating to America creates a quilt that connects to memories of family in the old country.  The quilt is used as bedcover, a Sabbath tablecloth, and a wedding canopy, and a baby blanket to wrap a new generation.  The book is too long to read in worship, but can be easily told turning to a few key pictures for illustration.

In The Naming Quilt, by Phyllis Root, a little girl goes to sleep each night with stories about the people represented in her family quilt.  The quilt is destroyed in a storm, but the little girl and her Grandmother still have the memories, and start a new quilt that includes the little girl’s name in the middle.  (This book may be harder to locate than the other.)


A Little Easter

U  All Saints Day is also known as a Little Easter.  Children are fascinated by celebrating Easter in a different season.  So bring out all the Easter paraments and robes.  If you “buried” an Alleluia banner or poster during Lent, bring it out and refer to it in worship again. 

U  Talk about the difference in celebrating resurrection in the springtime when flowers blooming and in the autumn when everything is turning brown and dying.  Celebrate both the joy of knowing there is new life when you see it all around you and the importance of remembering there is new life when everything around you is looking dead.  Older children enjoy thinking about how different Easter feels in the different hemispheres. 

U  On this day many congregations remember all the members of the congregation who have died during the last year.  Children are keenly aware of the intensity of this reading.  Indeed, many adults have childhood memories of the occasion.  Ways to enhance this worship event for children (and all worshipers) include:
  • Toll a handbell as each name is read.
  • Light a candle as each name is read and leave the candles lit throughout the service as a reminder of the continuing presence of the saints who have died.
  • One church in Maine projects the names on the walls – talk about being surrounded by a great cloud of witnesses!
  • Speak briefly about the connection between the living and dead saints.  At its best this can be a time when gratitude takes the center in the grieving process.

U  Selecting songs for All Saints Day is almost a no-brainer.  But there are ways to make them more sing-able for the children.

“For All the Saints” is 6 verses long!  Rather than sing all of them at once, spread them throughout the service.  Everyone will pay better attention to the words.  At the beginning of the service point out the Alleluias and practice them so non-readers can join in.

“I Sing A Song of the Saints of God” uses simpler language, names very specific recognizable saints, and asks the singer to commit to sainthood.  Singing it in the congregation suggests to all that children are also saints.

“For All the Saint’s Who’ve Shown Your Love” by John Bell uses simpler language than some All Saints hymns but is not as “cute” as “I Sing a Song of the Saints of God.”  Find the words and music at For All the Saints Who've Shown Your Love.

“We Are the Church Together” makes the point that the church is not a building, a steeple, or a resting place, but a community of people.  Before singing this song, recite this phrase and remind worshipers that they and all saints together are the church.

The second verse of “Holy, Holy, Holy, Lord God Almighty” is especially appropriate for All Saints and Communion.  Walk through it pointing out the connections.  Ask a class of children in advance to make banner illustrating it.  Process the banner in and display it during the singing of the hymn.  Sing the second verse again at communion even in response to the phrase “with the faithful of all times and all places.” 

Highlight the phrase “Praise Him above you heavenly host” in the Doxology.  Note that all the saints you have been talking about praised God and we praise God.  That connects us.

Singing “When the Saints Go Marchi’ In” in worship delights children and helps them understand the song in a new way.  I even heard of one congregation that sang “When the Saints Go Marchin’ Out” at the end of service.


 
U  If you celebrate communion and use the reference in the Great Prayer of Thanksgiving to “joining with all the saints (or the faithful) of all times and places,” point it out.  Describe the people we see actually standing at this table.  Then invite worshipers to imagine all the ones we cannot see who are also at the Table.  Refer to those who died in the last year.  Name a couple of famous saints familiar to your congregation.  Mention all the others whose names we don’t know but who are saints worshiping and loving God with us.  Point out that all these saints are unseen at our Table.  Restate the phrase.  Have the congregation echo it.  Urge them to listen for it in the communion liturgy.  Then, move into the invitation to the Table. 


The Texts

U  First decision of the day is whether to use the All Saints texts or the Proper 26 texts.  Strangely enough the Proper 26 texts – especially Habakkuk and the Psalm - might fit into the celebration of All Saints better than the texts set for this day.  Go to  Year C - Proper 26 to check them out. 

Daniel 7:1-3, 15-18

U  On the Sunday at the end of Halloween weekend, Daniel’s nightmare recalls all the scary stuff dealt with over the last few days and connects those to the scary nightmares and fears of monsters under the bed that trouble children.  It can also lead to identifying other scary things we face every day.  To all of these monstrous fears verse 18 is the answer.

U  Verses 1-3 say only that there were four monsters in Daniel’s dream.  Add verses 4-8 from CEV to hear about each monster and enjoy the awfulness of his nightmare.  A dramatic reading including facial responses to some of the details of the monsters bring the monsters to life.

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Daniel 7:1-15

     Daniel wrote: In the first year of King Belshazzar of Babylonia, I had some dreams and visions while I was asleep one night, and I wrote them down.

     The four winds were stirring up the mighty sea, 3 when suddenly four powerful beasts came out of the sea. Each beast was different.

      The first was like a lion with the wings of an eagle. As I watched, its wings were pulled off. Then it was lifted to an upright position and made to stand on two feet, just like a human, and it was given a human mind.

5 The second beast looked like a bear standing on its hind legs. It held three ribs in its teeth, and it was told, “Attack! Eat all the flesh you want.”

6 The third beast was like a leopard—except that it had four wings and four heads. It was given authority to rule.

7 The fourth beast was stronger and more terrifying than the others. Its huge teeth were made of iron, and what it didn’t grind with its teeth, it smashed with its feet. It was different from the others, and it had horns on its head—ten of them. 8 Just as I was thinking about these horns, a smaller horn appeared, and three of the other horns were pulled up by the roots to make room for it. This horn had the eyes of a human and a mouth that spoke with great pride.

Pause here, shaking your head as if shaking off the dreams.  Then read verses 15-18.  I’d immediately say “let’s reread that last verse again.  It is the one we need to remember.” Then, reread verse 18. 

15 Daniel wrote: I was terrified by these visions, and I didn’t know what to think. 16 So I asked one of those standing there, and he explained, 17 “The four beasts are four earthly kingdoms. 18 But God Most High will give his kingdom to his chosen ones, and it will be theirs forever and ever.”

From CEV

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U  Some Things are Scary Things, by Florence Parry Heide, can take you from Halloweeny fears to more everyday fears.  The book is a random collection of wonderfully illustrated things that scare children.  Rather than reading the whole book, select a few of the pages to read and discuss.  Present verse 18 as hope for each of the fears.

 
Psalm 149

U  Turn verses 1-5 into a responsive reading.  Have a worship leader read the verses with the congregation responding, “Praise the Lord!” to each one.  Even non-readers can join in on that.  Or, prepare a more elaborate reading with a choir (maybe a children’s choir) and children (maybe those in the choir) with rhythm instruments.   One brief rehearsal with the saints involved in the latter is essential.

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Psalm 149:1-5
Responsive Reading

Leader:          Shout praises to the Lord!

People:         Praise the Lord!

              Rhythm instruments sound off

Leader:          Sing him a new song of praise when his
                        loyal people meet.

People:         Praise the Lord! or a praise phrase sung by choir

Leader:          People of Israel, rejoice because of your Creator.

People:         Praise the Lord!

Leader:          People of Zion, celebrate because of your King.

People:         Praise the Lord!

Leader:          Praise his name by dancing and
                        playing music on harps and tambourines.

             Rhythm instruments sound off

Leader:         The Lord is pleased with his people,

                        and he gives victory to those who are humble.

People:         Praise the Lord!

Leader:         All of you faithful people, praise our glorious Lord!

  Celebrate and worship.

People:         Praise the Lord!

             Rhythm instruments sound off

Based on the CEV

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Ephesians 1:11-23

U  On the Sunday after Halloween, Paul insists that the saints belong to Christ who is the most powerful being in the whole universe.  We are safe.


Last Judgment, from Art in the Christian Tradition,
a project of the Vanderbilt Divinity Library, Nashville, TN.
 http://diglib.library.vanderbilt.edu/act-imagelink.pl?RC=29448
[retrieved October 3, 2013].

To explore the lordship of Christ, display a photo of a judgment door from a middle ages cathedral.  Point out the demons who are being thrown aside and the big powerful statue of Christ in the middle.  Note that every time people walk through those doors to worship, they remember that they are safe with Christ. 


Mosaic of Jesus Christ, from Hagia Sophia,
from Art in the Christian Tradition,
a project of the Vanderbilt Divinity Library, Nashville, TN.
  http://diglib.library.vanderbilt.edu/act-imagelink.pl?RC=54554
[retrieved October 3, 2013].
For the youngest children, display a picture of a very gentle Jesus (maybe Jesus with the children) and a stern Jesus as the Lord of the world.  Discuss the differences in the faces and how it feels to look at each picture.  Note that both are the same person – Jesus, the Christ.  Jesus is what his friends called him.  Christ is who he really was, the Lord of the whole world.  Conclude that having both pictures reminds us that we are safe with Jesus who is the Lord of the world and who loves us.

Remind children of all the gory tattoos people wore for Halloween, then give them each a removable cross tattoo or sticker to remind them that they belong to Jesus, the Christ, who is Lord of the whole Universe.

U  Tell worshipers that Paul wrote a prayer for the Christians at the church in Ephesus.  Insist that the same prayer could be for us.  Invite them to listen to it as if it were being prayed for them and for your church.  For the sake of the children with shorter attention spans, read only verses 16-18.  Read from The CEV with great inflection stopping to look up at the congregation at key points.


Luke 6:20-31

U  This reading might be titled “Rules for Saints.”  Children will get lost in the blessings and woes.  If the verses about loving enemies and the golden rule are raised up separately, children will struggle with them and claim them for themselves.  The easiest way to explore this with children is to focus on The Golden Rule in verse 31.  Introduce it as the number one rule for saints.


U  One rule for saints it to love your enemies.  Enemy Pie, by Derek Munson, tells the story of a boy who saw his new neighbor as an enemy.  His dad volunteers to help get rid of the enemy by baking enemy pie.  One ingredient was that they boys had to spend one afternoon together before the pie could be served.  You can guess what happened.  The enemy became a friend.  The challenge for saints is to turn enemies into friends.  (It is important to note that it is often harder to do than it is in this book, but that the book gives us a good goal.) 

U  Highlight “Forgive us our debts/transgressions/sins, as we forgive…” in the Lord’s Prayer.  Before the congregation prays it, point to the phrase.  Talk about all the things people do to each other that need forgiving.  Include everything from saying mean things, hitting, taking what isn’t ours, and playing mean tricks on people to really hurting someone, even going to war with them.  Insist that the only difference between a friends and enemies is that the friends forgive each other.  Challenge worshipers to think of friends they need to forgive so they don’t become enemies.  Then, pray the whole prayer.