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Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Year C - Proper 16, 21st Sunday in Ordinary Time, 14th Sunday after Pentecost (August 25, 2013)

Of all the Year C August sets of lectionary texts, this is the one most filled with Back to School connections.  If this is not Back to School Sunday in your area, you might want to consider using these texts on the Sunday that is.


Jeremiah 1:4-10

This is the first of NINE! weeks of readings from Jeremiah.  That is a long series!  The thread that runs through it is the story of the changing self-understanding of the Jewish people as they lived through Exile.  That leads to fairly adult discussions about judgment and what it means to be God’s people – not easy for children to grasp.  Furthermore, the readings include few stories or easy to display objects.  So, there is little to suggest an ongoing banner or display linking the Sundays of the series.  I’d let each reading stand on its own and explore their fairly unique messages.  There is more in those individual messages for children than in the series of them.

%  This reading is best read by a teenage boy.  It is a good challenge for a guy with a dramatic flair.  Rehearse with him so he will read it well.  He might even thoughtfully touch his lips as he reads verse 9.  Read from the CEV to avoid the blush-inducing word “womb” and for the clear description of what lies ahead for God’s people.

I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I

Jeremiah 1:4-10


4 The Lord said:
    5 “Jeremiah, I am your Creator,
and before you were born,
I chose you to speak for me
to the nations.”
6 I replied, “I’m not a good speaker, Lord, and I’m too young.”
7 “Don’t say you’re too young,” the Lord answered. “If I tell you to go and speak to someone, then go! And when I tell you what to say, don’t leave out a word! 8 I promise to be with you and keep you safe, so don’t be afraid.”
9 The Lord reached out his hand, then he touched my mouth and said, “I am giving you the words to say, 10 and I am sending you with authority to speak to the nations for me. You will tell them of doom and destruction, and of rising and rebuilding again.”
                                                               from the CEV

I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I  I

%  At the beginning of the school year, God’s words to Jeremiah speak to children clearly.  Children are not to say “I am only a kid.  I’ll be a disciple when I grow up.  I am in school now, and not yet ready to do God’s work in the world.”  Instead, we can tell them that God needs them exactly where they will be – in classrooms, on the bus, at the lunch table, on the playground, etc.  They are to be God’s people in those places.  God is depending on them.  They are the only people God has to work there.

%  God tells Jeremiah “Do not be afraid of them” (verse 8).  Identify who the THEM might be at the beginning of the school year, e.g. demanding teachers, kids who are smarter than you are, kids who are better athletes, bullies, etc.  Then read the whole verse including God’s promise to be with Jeremiah and help him.  Insist that the verse is a great Back to School verse and use it as a prayer.

%  This text could turn into a Back to School sermon addressed directly to the children knowing that adults will listen, resonate with it, and apply pieces of it to their lives at work and in their communities.  To build Christ-based self-esteem in children (and older worshipers) explore the fact that Jeremiah did not feel ready to do what God wanted.  “I’m just a kid!  No one will listen to me!  And I don’t know what to say.”  Insist that God sometimes calls us to do things we feel we are not ready to do or that we are not feeling brave enough to try.  That happens in classes and just hanging out at school.  When it does, our challenge is to remember what God told Jeremiah – that God had given him everything he needed and God would be with him helping him know what to do and say.

Yes, we usually preach to the adults hoping the children will catch ideas here and there.  But, it is possible to do the reverse – and back to school time is a great opportunity.  Every adult in the room recalls back to school experiences and can adapt your message to the students to their adult situations.  Most adults enjoy an occasional such sermon.  And, families with children feel they are a very real part of the church when they hear them.

%  Especially if you have been blessing the backpacks and need a fresh twist on it, this year bless the child rather than the backpack.  A hand on the head with words such as “NAME, God made you and knew you before you were even born.  God is with you every day at school.  God loves you and calls you to love people you meet each day.” 

%  Sing “God of Grace, God of Glory” to pray for the wisdom and courage to use our gifts to do God’s work.  Point out to the non-readers the repeated chorus “grant us wisdom, grant us courage” before singing.  Encourage all worshipers to sing it with Jeremiah and Jesus.

%  Before singing “Here I Am, Lord” teach the chorus to the children.  Then have the adults sing the verses and the children sing the chorus as a prayer for the new school year.

%  Turn Jeremiah’s call into charge and benediction –

Ask all who will be students to stand.  Say to them: Hear the word of the Lord.  I knew you before I gave you life.  I chose you before you were born.  I send you now to school.  Be my people there.  Share my love with everyone you meet there.  Stand up for my ways in classrooms, in locker rooms, on playgrounds, in lunchrooms, and on the bus.

Ask all who will not be students this year to stand.  Say to them: Hear the word of the Lord.  I knew you before I gave you life.  I chose you before you were born.  Do not say “I am only a housewife” or “I am the least important person where I work.”  Be my people.  Stand up for my ways.  Share my love with the people you meet every day.

Then addressing all worshipers say:  All of you, students, teachers, businessmen and business women, homemakers, remember God’s promise to Jeremiah and to you.  God says, “Do not be afraid.  I will be with you to protect you.  I will put my words in your mouth.”  So go in peace.  Amen


Psalm 71:1-6

%  These verses are filled with not-quite-everyday words about trusting God in dangerous situations.  To help children recognize the words and therefore follow the prayer of the psalmist, instruct the congregation to turn to the psalm in pew Bibles.  Point out the key words noting the change from the “help me” words and phrases at the beginning to “I trust you” words at the end.  Then, invite the whole congregation to read the psalm aloud together.

NRSV words: be my refuge, deliver me, rescue me, incline your ear (i.e. listen) to me, be my rock and fortress, rescue me (again), I hope, I trust, upon you I have leaned, and I praise

%  Introduce this as a prayer for all the students who are worried about going back to school.  Recall Harry Potter’s friends Hermoine who was an excellent student and totally excited about going back to school every year and Ron who was not a great student and rather dreaded the return to classes.  Note that most students are somewhere between Ron and Hermoine.  Read through the psalm connecting it to scary times at school and savoring the trust at the end of the prayer.  Then invite the whole congregation to read the psalm aloud together.


Isaiah 58:9b-14

This is one of those passages that requires so much explaining that by the time you get to the message behind all the words, the children have wandered off to more interesting thoughts.  So, I’d work with the other texts with them today.


Psalm 103:1-8

%  Hmmm.  I grew up saying “bless the Lord O my soul” and kind of understanding it.  But, I really like the CEV’s translation’s “With all my heart I praise the Lord and with all that I am I praise his holy name.”  So much easier for children!  Still the rest of that translation is filled with male pronouns for God.  The NRSV is so much better on that count!  It tempts me to read verses 1-2 from the CEV and 3-8 from NRSV.  Or, maybe it is better to simply read the CEV translation of verses 1 and 2 to clarify what the psalmist and we are doing here. 


 
%  Challenge young worshipers to follow the psalmist’s lead in order to create a psalm praising God for all the blessings of their summer.  Provide paper and markers.  Children begin by drawing a scribble pattern.  They then fill in each space with words and pictures about one blessing of their summer.  Brainstorm possibilities together – swim team, the vacation, a visit from friends or families from out of town, etc.  Then send children to their seats to create their prayers of summer blessings.  You could invite them to tape their prayers to the rail at the front (leave roll of tape handy) during the offering or simply talk with children individually about their psalms as they leave the sanctuary.
 
Go to Praying in Color, by Sybil MacBeth, for fuller directions for this method of praying with markers. 

%  Or go more verbal and provide a worksheet on which children can complete the phrase, “God I praise you for…” several times to create their own summer psalm.  Offer markers with which they can illustrate their psalm with summer scenes.  Invite them to post their psalm or to discuss it with you at the door.

R R R R R R R R R R R R R R


         My Summer Psalm

With all my heart I praise the Lord!
 
God, I praise you for

____________________________



God, I praise you for

____________________________
 

God, I praise you for

____________________________


With all my heart I praise the Lord!

R R R R R R R R R R R R R R


Hebrews 12:18-29

%  According to this text, what we do not see in the sanctuary is more important than what we do see.  So, identify all the things you do see in your sanctuary.  Then begin identifying what you do not see.  Consider everything from God, the love you each have for God and for each other, the stories you carry in your hearts, etc.  In the end imagine all the saints of all generations gathered with you, singing with you.  Insist that it is these things we cannot say that make worship so special and important.  When we worship we become part of something much bigger than just what we can see in the room.

%  Especially if you celebrate communion today and your liturgy includes the phrase “with all the angels, archangels and…,” highlight it.  Point it out in the liturgy and in your own words explain that communion is about more than just us eating a little piece of bread and sipping from a cup.  It is about being part of God’s big story that started before the world was created and will last beyond when the universe is over.  What we don’t see is more important than what we do see.


Luke 13:10-17

%  Invite children to stand bent over.  Ask what they can see from there.  Imagine how hard it would be to go to the grocery store or fix dinner this way.  Ask one of the bent over children to talk to you while you are standing up straight to see how it feels.  Then have everyone stand up, wiggle, stretch, and hop a bit.  Finally, announce that today’s gospel is the story of a woman who had been bent over for 18 years. 

%  Usually at the beginning of the school year there is a good bit of name calling as groups of children establish the pecking order for the year.  Sometimes the names are not mean to hurt, but simply to label another person.  Still, most name calling makes people look “less” in the eyes of people around them.  Jesus reverses that process here giving the woman a name that makes her “more.”  Before she was “old woman” and did not even rate a personal name.  After Jesus spoke she was “a daughter of Abraham” and so worthy of Jesus’ time and healing.  Explore this with children identifying some of the names like wimp, bully, jock, baby, sissy, cry-baby, bird brain, smarty pants, etc. that are hurled at others and how differently people look when we say instead “child of God.”

         PEOPLE = MORE IMPORTANT THAN RULES
% This text explores some fairly adult issues about the function of rules.  Children will not understand them.  Though children are not too interested in the rule in question in this story, they are keenly interest in following rules.  Rules are important to children as they learn how the world works and what is and is not allowed.  They struggle to grow through several stages of living with rules.  Preschoolers accept whatever rules the biggest person in the room (usually an adult, but sometimes the oldest child) decrees.  Those rules are not debatable.  Younger elementary school children begin to understand that a group can make its own rules.  Many of their classes and clubs take time shaping rules they will follow together.  Children at this stage frequently spend more time arguing about the rules of a game than they do playing the game.  They relish the details of the rules.  Once the rules are set, they demand that they be obeyed to the letter in all situations.  That way “it is fair!”  It is not easy to accept letting a younger child get more turns or stand closer to the goal.  It is even harder to get from accepting that “just this once” to realizing that in general everyone having fun playing together is more important than following the rules exactly.  Another source of conflict in families is different rules for children of different ages or rules for a younger child that are different than they were for an older child when she was that age.  Jesus challenges all these children to keep working though how they use rules.  Jesus knew the rule, “don’t do work on the Sabbath.”  But he saw a woman who was crippled and he had the power to heal her.  He decided that it was better to take care of the woman than to follow the rule.  Telling the story in this context challenges the children to grow in their use of rules.

It is frequently suggested that Deuteronomy 5:12-15 be read instead of the other Old Testament readings suggested for this passage.  That is an especially good idea for children because it clearly identifies Sabbath keeping as a VERY IMPORTANT RULE, i.e. one of the Ten Commandments.  That makes Jesus’ breaking it even more surprising and questionable to rule loving children.


There are several Back to School ideas related to today’s texts described in this post.  For more general ideas for recognizing the return to school in the congregation’s worship, go to Back to School - 2013.

Friday, January 4, 2013

Year C - Second Sunday after Epiphany, Second Sunday in Ordinary Time (January 20, 2013)

 
All of today’s texts have themes that are important to children.  But, the children will not hear them as the texts are read.  They will depend on the adults to present the themes in words and ideas that connect to their world. 
 

Isaiah 62:1-5

This is a poem for the Bible students.  To follow it the reader needs to understand the situation of the returned exiles and interpret all the wedding images.  Children are lost in it.  But, they can appreciate what Isaiah is saying if it is unpacked for them.

' The bottom line is that God does not let people who are in really bad situations stay stuck there forever.  God works to get justice for everyone.

' Rather than explore the wedding images, think about the names people get called or the labels that are attached to them.  You are dumb, silly, clumsy, weird…. You can’t sing, play soccer, do math, etc. … The assumption is that not only are you that way now, but you will probably never be any different.  You are hopeless.  When we are called such names we can start believing them.  Isaiah insists that we must not do this.  Even when we look less than wonderful, God is at work in us making us into the amazing people God created us to be.  We are to think about what God wants for us not the names we get called now.  There is hope.  This can also connect to the gifts God gives as described in today’s epistle.

 
' Serendipitously January 21-25 is “No Name Calling Week” this year.  This week is sponsored mainly in schools to combat the name calling that underlies bullying.  Go to No Name Calling Week to find a wealth of resources.  Simply mentioning this campaign in worship lets children know you are aware of what is going on in their world.   Exploring it further in worship using some of the resources on the site can help children see name calling as a religious as well as ethical issue.  “Words Can Hurt” is this year’s theme.



' Ellen’s Broom, by Kelly Starling Lyons, is one way to explore the wedding images in the psalm and to connect to Martin Luther King, Jr.’s Birthday celebration themes.  It is the story of a couple who jumped the broom as slaves going with their children to the courthouse to get a real wedding certificate as a legal couple.  The story which is told by the daughter can be read aloud in 8 minutes.  But, you could simply show the last picture in the book (a stone fireplace with the broom and wedding certificate hanging above it) and explain in your own words what happened.  Urge families to check the book out of the library or send a copy with the children to read and discuss further in classes.

' BTW I learned of this book on the website Children’s Literature: A Resource for Ministry which is a gold mine.  Check it out at Children's Literature: A Resource for Ministry.
 

Psalm 36:5-10

The Roman Catholic reading for today is Psalm 96:1-10.  Both of these psalms are filled with short statements praising God’s power.  To help children follow either one, have them read responsively between halves of the congregation, between a leader and the congregation, or between a choir or children’s class and the congregation.  Before reading explain that the psalm is a collection of praises for God and invite worshipers to join in the praising by reading their part aloud and reading the other parts silently.  Remind them that they are talking to God while reading both aloud and silently.  The TEV is the easiest translation of these psalms for children to understand as they read.

Go to Year A - Proper 24, 29th Sunday in Ordinary Time for one responsive reading script for Psalm 96.


1 Corinthians 12:1-11

This is the first of three readings about gifts from 1 Corinthians.  To avoid stealing your own thunder, plan ahead.  My take on the three is

This week we identify and celebrate all the gifts God gives us and recognize that we are meant to use these gifts not just for our own good but for the good of the people around us.

Next week focuses on the fact that all the gifts support and add to each other.  No gift is more special than any other gift.  All are needed.

Finally, whatever our gifts are we are to use them lovingly.  The love is more important than the gift.

' Spend time in worship identifying some of the many gifts God has placed in the people of your congregation.  Start with the obvious ones like the musicians and teachers.  Go to those who organize whatever needs organizing and those who are good listeners and “are there” whenever someone needs a friend.  Be sure to include gifts seen in children and youth as well as in adults.


 
' Give children (and all worshipers?) a sheet of paper featuring a large gift box.  Encourage them to draw or write about gifts God has given them.  Suggest that people sitting near a person might add a gift they see in him or her.  Tell them to take the paper home and post it where they will see it each day this week so they can add to it as they recognize other gifts God has given them. 

' After identifying and celebrating gifts, reread and explore verse 7’s insistence that the gifts are given not just for us to enjoy for ourselves but to use for the good of people around us.  Use specific examples, e.g. there are gifted athletes who use their abilities to win competitions and maybe make money for themselves and enjoy being famous.  There are other gifted athletes who also use their gifts to coach others the sport.  Paul wants us to be like the latter.

Older worshiping hands
can do this too
' Invite worshipers to pray about their gifts using their hands. 

First, cup hands together in front of you as if holding water in them.  With your imagination put into your hands some of the gifts God has built into you.  (Give people time to think on this one.)

Raise your hands still cupped up to God.  While all hands are so raised thank God for all the gifts given to each of us.  Name the ways we enjoy and benefit from those gifts.

Hold your cupped hands out as if offering what is in them to the world.  While hands are in this position, promise God to use our gifts to love and take care of others.

Fold your hands in prayer.  Pray for God to help you use all these gifts wisely and lovingly. 

' Ann Weem’s poem “Gift of God” (Reaching For Rainbows, page 34) includes images that are too complicated for children.  But the opening lines and the closing line, “Gift of God, I thank God for you”  could be used to celebrate the gifts we are to each other.  This poem fragment could be used today or next week.

John 2:1-11

' Adults get the mental picture of how much water was changed into wine when they hear the text read.  To help children get that picture and to celebrate the abundance here,

Display a gallon milk jug.  Talk about how many glasses of milk or juice you could pour out of it.  Then read verse 6 and imagine how many glasses could be poured from 20-30 gallon jugs.  Then do the math.  If each stone jug held 20 gallons how many gallons would the six jugs hold.  Marvel at how much wine this was!

Or, gather 20 one gallon milk jugs to give an even clearer picture of how much water was in each stone jug.  For impact, start with a single milk jug up front and have a group of children bring 19 more in to pile around you.

Or, I guess you could go over the top and gather 120 or even 180 milk jugs – if you could find that many!  Leave them piled in the front of the sanctuary around the Table – especially if God’s abundance is the central worship theme of the day.  (If anyone does this, please take a picture and share it with the rest of us!!!!)

' Jesus turned ordinary water into fine wine.  Jesus can also turn everything that seems ordinary in our lives into something amazing – like water into wine, coal into diamonds, sand into glass, or bits of fabric into a quilt.  (This idea came from Lutheran seminary professors.)   With children I’d present fabric scraps and a quilt.  This may be an opportunity to feature a quilter in your congregation.  You could use it today to explore how what looks plain on its own can be turned into something beautiful when worked into a larger item by a real artist.   Or, you could save it for next week’s text about the importance of each gift to the whole body.

 
' “In Cana at a Wedding Feast,” by Carolyn Winfrey Gillette, is a great hymn for beginning to think about Jesus’ ministry.  Each verse recalls a familiar story with the last verse summarizing their significance.  To help children identify and follow the stories, before singing it present a prop for each verse: a wine glass, a basket with rolls and fish (maybe plastic ones from the nursery toy box or cardboard cutouts), a toy boat, and a pair of glasses for healing a blind man.  To help further, print a small picture of each beside the verse printed in the bulletin or projected on a screen.  The words to the hymn and information about permissions to use it are found at Hymns by Carolyn Winfrey Gillette.
 
 

 
 

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Year B - Proper 19, 24th Sunday in Ordinary Time, 16th Sunday after Pentecost (September 16, 2012)



Proverbs 1:20-33

F This is not the best reading about Wisdom for children.  She sounds like a peevish teacher reaming out the class about not paying attention and promising dire consequences.  If you do read it, the TEV with its “fools” is better than translations which speak of “simple ones” or “mockers.”

F Thinking about Wisdom led me to search for wise people in children’s literature.  There is Jiminy Cricket to whom the puppet Pinocchio learns to listen.  And there are the sages of fantasy literature – Dumbledore, Gandalf, Yoda, Merlin, Obi-Wan Kenobi….  all wise men guiding young heroes.  Since they are all male, I am on a search for female sages in children’s stories.  If you know of any, share them in the comments. 



F The Greatest Power, by Demi, tells of a Chinese emperor who needs a wise prime minister and to find this person invites the children of the kingdom to think for a year about what is “the greatest power.”  Children come in with examples from Chinese inventions, money, beauty, etc.  Sing brings a single lotus seed because the seed has the power to recreate life every year.

LAW  DECREES  PRECEPTS  COMMANDMENT  
FEAR  ORDINANCES

Psalm 19

F The RCL suggests reading the entire psalm today.  With children I would start reading with verse 7 to focus on the Law and would use NRSV which maintains the six different terms for Law.  Print each of these terms on a separate piece of poster paper.  Read each one and pass it to a worshiper who is invited to stand at the front.  Give the more complicated words to older worshipers – maybe “ordinance” to a lawyer – and simpler words to younger worshipers.  Point out that they are synonyms, they are different words for the same thing.  Instruct poster bearers to raise their poster as they hear their word in the psalm.  As you read the verses, pause when you come to each poster word. 

F If you regularly use the prayer in verse 14 in your worship, point it out today and explain why it us used in that place and what it means to pray it then.  Then pray it together.

Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart
          be acceptable to you,
O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.

F In honor of verse 10’s claim that the Law is sweeter than honey, give all worshipers a hard candy (perhaps honey flavored) to savor as they listen to a sermon about wisdom and the Law.



Wisdom of Solomon 7:26 – 8:1

Most denominational lectionaries opt for the psalm reading here for good reason.  This description of Wisdom is filled with poetic images.  Each image needs to be explained to the children.  In the end the message is not worth all the effort for children. 


Isaiah 50:4-9a

“I can take it because God is with me” is the simplest summary of these verses.  Children quickly identify what Isaiah is facing (people were beating him, pulling the hair in his beard, spitting in his face).  Because this text also appears on Palm Passion Sunday, Isaiah’s woes can be compared to Jesus’ woes on Good Friday.  Both of these then lead to identifying woes children can face today with God’s help.  If you go this way, be careful not to suggest that children should simply endure all abuse that comes their way.  Bullying and most of the abuse children face needs to be confronted with God's strength rather than endured with God's strength. 


Psalm 116:1-9

This is another psalm I’d skip with the children today.  There is just too much else in the other texts and too many complications in this psalm.


James 3:1-12

Haring, Keith, 1958-1990.
Ten Commandments, unnumbered,
from Art in the Christian Tradition,
a project of the Vanderbilt Divinity Library, Nashville, TN.
http://diglib.library.vanderbilt.edu/act-imagelink.pl?RC=55144
[retrieved August 23, 2012].
F Display this art depicting our dangerous tongues.  Name each of the snakey tongues with ways we use our tongues to do harm – name caller, angry mean yeller, teller of lies about me (to make me look good), teller lies about others (to make them look bad), teller of secrets I promised to keep, stick out (no words just stick out the tongue), explainer trying to prove I’m really OK when I really am not.  In an informal setting children can help you name the tongues and maybe come up with some others. 

F Use these tongues to create a responsive prayer of confession.  The prayer below could be printed for all to read.  Or, the congregational response could be printed and the congregation instructed to respond when the leader pauses.

L L L L L L L L L L L L L L L

A Confession About Using Our Tongues

Leader: God, angry words explode out of us.  We do not think about what we say or how it will hurt people.  We only think of our own anger and putting it all into words so everyone will know how angry and hurt we feel.

People: Forgive us for the way we hurt others with our tongues.

Leader:  We say things that are not quite true to make ourselves look good to others.  We add to the truth, change the story just a little bit, even lie for our own good.

People: Forgive us for the way we hurt others with our tongues.

Leader:  We also say things that are not quite true about others to make them look bad.  We change the story just a little bit and even lie so we look better and they look worse.

People: Forgive us for the way we hurt others with our tongues.

Leader:  We know lots of names that are meant to hurt and should never be said.  We don’t really intend to say them, but we do.  We spit them out hoping they will embarrass and humiliate. 

People: Forgive us for the way we hurt others with our tongues.

Leader:  We promise we will never tell a secret.  Then we do.  It is just too good to keep to ourselves, so we break our promise and we tell.

People: Forgive us for the way we hurt others with our tongues.

Leader: We use our tongues to convince ourselves that all the wrong we have done and all the hurt we have caused are not really so bad.  But we know in our hearts that they are.  We have broken your Law.  We have not loved you or others with our tongues or our lives.

People: Forgive us for the way we hurt others with our tongues.

Leader: Lord hear our prayers.  Forgive us and guide us.  May the words of our mouths then be acceptable in your sight.  Amen.

L L L L L L L L L L L L L L L

F Children can understand that the biggest problem with our tongues is that we can’t unsay anything.  Once we say it, it is out there.  Apologies help, but the hurt is still there.

F This is also a chance to explore the old adage “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names can never hurt me.”  The fact is that names DO hurt.  When people are called nasty, dirty names they know what the name caller thinks of them – and that hurts.  Those people can be strong, not believe the name caller, and work to prove they are better than the name caller claims.  But, it still hurts. 

There is actually a No Name Calling Week in many schools in January.  Go to No Name Calling Week to learn more about it and download some great resources.  There would still be time to sponsor one in your community this January.

F I’d go straight to the misuse of the tongue by-passing the references to bits in horses mouths and rudders on ships.  Before they understand either of these metaphors children need to learn about the horse’s bit or the ship’s rudder.  Then those need to be connected to tongues.  Neither adds much to what they get from James' direct message.

F In our day of electronic communication James’ message about tongues applies to texts, tweets, twitters, etc. as well as oral communication.  It is really the words that come off our tongues or through our fingers that are the problem.  Once those words are out there, they and the pain they cause can’t be called back.  For some reason many older children with their first devices seem willing to say things on line that they would never say with their tongues.  They needed repeated challenges from a variety of sources to save them from “learning the hard way” how much damage can be done on-line.


Mark 8:27-38

F Most children think Christ is Jesus’ last name.  This is an opportunity to reintroduce Jesus’ name as “Jesus, the Christ” and to explore what the title Christ means.  In simplest terms, Christ is God’s special leader.  When Peter said “You are the Christ” he was saying you are the special leader from God for whom we have been waiting for centuries. 

F Create a litany in which the leader tells events in Jesus’ life ending with a statement about what people said about him to which the congregation responds with “We say, you are the Christ.”  For those of you who have copies of the Forbid Them Not series, go to Year B, page 151 to find a complete script.  Others can create their own version of this.

F Children hear calls to “take up your cross” literally.  They need to be told that Jesus is not calling us to pick up a wooden cross.  He is not even calling us to wear cross jewelry or tattoos.  He is calling us to do hard things to love God and other people – even when they hurt us.  Similarly, “deny yourself” needs to be translated to mean think about others first.  Do not think about what I want, but what they need.  This starts with everyday events like putting down your video game to play with your younger brother so a parent can get some work done. 

F Because children do not use the word cross metaphorically, avoid hymns that do, e.g.”Beneath the Cross of Jesus”.  Instead choose discipleship hymns such as “Take My Life and Let it Be Consecrated.”